Girlfriend Seeks Advice After Boyfriend Claims He Downloaded Grindr Just To Buy Some Weed

A distraught girlfriend recently sought the wisdom of British advice columnist Deidre Sanders after finding the gay hookup app ‘Grindr’ on her boyfriends phone.

She writes:

I found the Grindr app on my boyfriend’s phone and now I’m wondering if he’s gay or bisexual I am a woman of 26 and he’s 34. We have been together for six months. He has a drink problem and sex has been rubbish for a while.

One day I came home early from work. He was furious and went to bed drunk.

Something made me look at his phone and I found the Grindr app. I confronted him and he said he had just been looking for weed to help him quit the booze.

He admitted he had experimented with guys in the past. I know he’s had several hundred women but only a handful of guys.

My head is telling me to leave but my heart says stay.

Deidre wasn’t buying her boyfriend’s excuse. She replied:

Listen to your head. If you take off your rose-tinted glasses, you will see far more reasons to be unhappy than happy in this relationship.

Your heart wants to believe he is what you saw in him at the start. But just a few months down the line the reality is you are with a man with drink issues and who knows what else.

He is someone you can’t really believe or trust.

What advice would you offer the girlfriend?