Can You Be Gay For Just ‘One Guy’?

A confused reddit user is seeking advice because he thinks there is something wrong with him because he’s has a crush on a ‘male friend.’

User KittiesToTheMax writes:
I’m straight for the most part but I do have feeling for this one guy I know, he’s kind of like my foster brother in a way, or at least that’s how we met. My mom met his dad and we started to hang out, the relationship didn’t last long enough to mean anything but me and him stayed in contact even though our parents didn’t.

It didn’t become sexual until very recently, at first I just kinda looked up to him and wanted to be more like him. Then I wanted to be in his company because he made me feel cool and normal when I was around him. I started becoming quite jealous of the girls he showered affections on and at that point I realized what was going on.

I’m very much straight, I love girls, have sex with them often and there has never been any other guy that I’ve been into in any way.

This guy is different for some reason, I’ve started thinking about him a lot and I actually jacked off thinking about his body I’ve seen a few times during showers after we’ve gone swimming.

I feel pretty perverted, ashamed of how I’m feeling.


One commmenter, writes: “This sounds really feasible. I can imagine myself having this relationship with a girl that I spent a lot of time around. I don’t think this makes a person gay, I think this just reveals that we’re all a little flexible. You’re not necessarily even bi. It’s a spectrum. You’re just at 99 instead of 100.”

Another writes. “Well when I met my bf, I realized that I wanted him a lot. I had liked girls before and don’t recall ever being attracted by boys. We’ve been together for almost five years and I haven’t been attracted to anyone since, boys or girls. So sometimes I am iffy to identify myself as gay since I don’t feel attracted to guys except my bf. But since I’ve only been with him and no one else, it’s easier to be gay because he’s the only one I could ever want.”

Another user writes, “I think sexuality is weird, you’re probably not 100% straight but that doesn’t make you gay if you have feeling for a dude. If the feeling is mutual, i woulds say go for it : Worst case scenario ? You realize that you’re absolutely not into dudes and you know a lot more your sexuality. Best case scenario ? You’re into dudes and girls.”

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