When Katie Mathewson got engaged to the love of her life, she wanted to share the happy news with all of her family, but hesitated when it came to telling her grandparents she was in love with another woman. She still hadn’t come out.
“I accepted the sad reality that that they’d never know the real me,” Mathewson wrote of her reluctance to tell her grandparents in a post on Imgur, titled “This is what can happen when you come out to your bigoted and close-minded grandparents.”
Today, I came home to this letter in the mail. My grandmother is Korean and English isn’t her first language, but all I needed to see was “what matters is your happiness with MacKenzie for the rest of your life … No matter what may come, we still love you very much.” It’s not perfect or poetic, but it’s genuine and it’s love and it surprised me in the best way possible.
The letter reads:
Thank you for sharing your happy news with us Katie. The most important matters is your happiness with MacKenzie for the rest of your life.
The rest of the world will follow the ideas as the time moves on, and that is their problems! Just be understanding for those who don’t. I have been looking for an engagement card just right for you but not successful. Sorry –
Your grandfather and I are getting older everyday – moods change as the aches and pains occur and yet some days we feel energetic and ready to do anything so we will see by that time, August 28, 2016 it’s still long time yet.
We send our congratulations and blessings for you health and happiness and most of all no matter what may come – we still lovve you very much!
Love from us and grace.
Katie tells APlus she had thought about coming out to her grandparents before. “I thought about it once when I visited them last year, but we were standing on Fisherman’s Wharf in Monterey and saw two women kiss and my grandparents reacted with a combination of shock and disdain … so I kept my mouth shut.”
“It wasn’t until MacKenzie and I were trying to put together a guest list that I knew I at least owed it to them to tell them I was getting married and extend the invitation,” she said.
Mathewson says she plans on marrying next August in Washington state, and is considering a honeymoon vacation in Mexico and Hawaii.