Catholic High School Wrestler Comes Out To His Coach, Who Is Also His Father

Gay high school wrestler Cole Fox, left a remarkable two-page coming-out letter in his assistant coach’s pocket, who also happens to be his father.

“He had always made homophobic comments,” Cole told Outsports. “I could tell that the comments even made my mom uncomfortable at times.”

Last March he penned a letter to his father telling him he is gay and that he is still the same amazing son his dad had raised. In part, it read:

“Any anger, humiliation, sadness, happiness or whatever you’re feeling is completely valid. As far as I know, you have no ties to anyone LGBTQ. I just want you to know that it took me nearly 17 years to accept me. I’m going to give you time and space. You don’t have to talk about it. You can bring it up as much as you wish. You can talk to mom or April. You can completely disregard this letter.”

“I will still love you regardless of what you think or what you do.”


Cole was a nervous wreck as he nervously waited for his dad’s response to the letter which he had stuck in his father’s jacket before work one day last March.

Finally, the long-awaited text message arrived from his father during sixth period. He briefly stepped out of class and read his dad’s message: “You are still a great son and I am proud of you.”

Over the last couple of years, Cole has faced persistent “rumors” from his team and classmates about his sexuality. Whenever confronted about it, he always confirmed the rumors, not wanting to be ashamed of who he was.

Cole says he was warmly embraced by his high school and family after coming out to them.

The devout Catholic and a wrestler for Don Bosco Catholic High School, was awarded a Matthew Shepard Scholarship, a scholarship given to LGBT students for academic achievement and community leadership.

The graduating senior will head to the University of Northern Iowa in the fall.